I must say that I have gone out with way more than 30 dates. I want to use this post as a way to sum up some of the guys that I went out with but did not make their own blog. This journey has been an exhausting one, but what has made this more exhausting than anything are the unavailable guys. These guys are on dating sites saying that they are looking for a relationship long term, they want to get to know you and after two dates they want to sleep with you. If you happen to sleep with one of these guys, you can kiss any type of relationship out the door. If you do not sleep with one of these guys, you can also kiss any type of relationship out the door. I can only speak from a female perspective, so for you guys out there I am sure this may happen to you, but quite frankly this blog is for all the single available ladies out there. The question I ask, is are you paying a fee on a dating site, are you taking time out of your day to set up a dating site because you have that hard of a time getting laid? Is a dating site what it takes for these guys to get laid? I would respect a man who on his profile stated..."My name is ________ and I do not want a relationship with you, I want to take you out for drinks, get you drunk, get you back to my place and have sex with you. While I am doing this to you, I am also going to be dating and sleeping with several other girls. If you are interested wink at me." Because I am the type of girl that will respect that, and if I do not see a potential of a relationship with you, there may be one night I wink at you.
The problem is this, there are girls out there that will fall for anything and it makes the girls who sees a guy for what he really is look crazy and drama filled. In this society monogamy and commitment are two words that have ZERO meaning. I want to find someone who does know what those two words mean and truly wants to get to know me and what is in my heart. Doing this blog and meeting these guys have really taught me to look at myself and see where I am in my life. It has not always been pretty. But I can say this. I believe in love. I believe there is someone out there for me. I believe that the guy that is right for me will not have to be forced into a relationship with me, it will just happen. I believe that there is a guy out there that will call me at 4:30 in the afternoon and ask me to dinner instead of waiting to call me at 9:30 at night wanting to come over. I believe there is a guy out there that will never say a harsh word through text or over the phone to me. I believe there is a guy that when we walk into a room he will grab my hand and never let go. I believe there is a guy that will sit on the couch next to me while we watch a movie and never once try to "make a move". I believe there is a guy that will not laugh at the domestic bottle beer that I drink. I believe there is a guy that will hug me goodnight and not try to kiss me on the first date. I believe there is a guy that will show up at my door with coffee and breakfast instead of asking to spend the night so he can make those things for me in the morning. I believe there is a guy that will call me and text me just as many times as he did before we had sex, after we have sex. I believe that is out there and I am determined to find it!!! Why settle for second best? Life is too short to not be with someone that you love and respect. I know before I find all of these things in a guy, I need to respect myself and know what I want. I am learning how to do this, I have learned a lot over these past few months and have taken something away from every date I went on, good or bad. At this point I am learning to be okay with life, and where I stand at this very moment.
I am now off the dating site and I am just going to be me and let life and love take its course. Look out for part two!!!
~ONWARD
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