Can You Please Wear Flats?????

I woke up this morning armed with a cup of coffee and the awful thoughts surrounding last night's date.  Since it was a Friday night, I wanted to line up someone I thought was attractive.  Now now, I know that may sound superficial but with the past 2 dates already not ending great, why not go for some looks.  We had decided on a place that actually was a great location so I thought this is a good start, and then the text message came......"Can you please wear flats?"  Now, I have my height posted on my profile so all I can gather is he is intimidated.  I immediately call one of my girlfriends and after much laughter we decide I should indeed wear HEELS!!!! I arrive to the little pub and he was waiting for me in the parking lot which I thought, "What a nice gesture."  After taking one look at him, it then hit me why he only had head shots in his profile.........Face of an Angel, body of a TROLL.  I am thinking, well if this thing goes anywhere I will save money by shopping at Children's Place for him.  As I tower over him we walk into this great little pub and listened to some music.  After a little while, he decided on another place that we could walk to, in order to "get to know one another."  On our walk he asks how many dates I have been on from the site, I tell him he is number 3 and ask the same question to him, he looks at me as if I had just asked his shoe size and says he does not want to answer that question.  And then it starts to happen, before we arrive at our next destination he is determined to find out if I will accompany him back to his house afterwards.  I tell him no, he then wants to know if he can come back to my place I again tell him no and explain I do not allow strange men in my home.  Once at our next destination the conversation went a little like this:
CYPWF: Will you come back to my house?
Me:  No
CYPWF: Will you come back to my house?
Me: No
CYPWF: Hey let's get a bottle of wine and go back to my place.
Me: No thank you.
CYPWF: I have an idea, let's go back to my place.
Me: No
If he asked once he asked 25 times for me to come back to his place.  After a draining game of back and forth with this little man,  I finally agree just so I could leave.  He was so excited I think he skipped to his car.  He wanted me to ride with him, which I declined and said I would follow him.  He then insisted he could bring me back to my car, I again said no that I would just follow him.  We get into the car and down the road we go.  As he turns right, I turn left and head home.  OH MY, Can You Please Wear Flats was not happy with my left turn.  He then proceeded to call me and text me for the next hour!!!  Where did you go?  Do you need directions back to my place?  How did you lose sight of my car?  I wanted to respond to that one and say it must be because I can't see you in my heels but I didn't. Are you ok? After an hour's worth of calls and messages he finally got the hint and stopped. 

As I sat at home I wondered, how does a person turn your NO into a YES?  Men turn women's no's into a yes and vise versa all the time.  Are we so eager to please one another that we are too afraid to be strong and keep our NO a NO?    I am on this journey to find someone that will respect my no and not want to change my no.  And also find a partner where mutual lust and mutual respect go hand in hand.  This dating thing is about getting to know one another and he was not interested in that with a bottle of wine back at his place.  He could get to know me over coffee or at a park but not at 9pm with a cork screw.  But all is well and the only thing left to say is........

~ONWARD