FAFAFAFALALALALA.....We're SO FABULOUS!!!!!

OH MY GOODNESS, Thursday's date was one for the books.  I met a guy that lives out of state but does business throughout the week here and he was going to be in town for lunch and wanted to meet.  We meet at one of my favorite places to eat.  He walks in and was wearing scrubs, now I love a man in scrubs.  His body was great, but his hair looked like he just filmed a John Hughes 1980's movie. That hair belonged in the Breakfast Club.  Once again as on so many of my dates, we order everything on the menu.  Chicken salad, flatbread pizza, macaroni and cheese, tuna and rice.  I ate more than he did.  He ate like a girl and I ate like a sumo wrestler.  He starts off by telling me that he has just had his most recent job for a few years.  He tells me that he had gotten let go from his previous job due to cross dressing.  I look at him as he says this and think to myself that I may need another order of macaroni and cheese.  He then starts talking about his two ex-wives and one particular step-son.  He then starts crying at the table while talking about how much he misses his step-son.  He says, "I can't believe I am crying on a first date" I think to myself, "I can't believe I have not taken a shot yet at the bar".  I listen to him cry and try not to laugh.  The date continues and our server comes to our table to check on us and she asked us how we were doing.  My date then busts out in SINGING...."We're SOOOOOOO FABULOUS".  As if he is on Glee the TV show.  I thought I was at a Broadway show.  Our poor little server looked scared out of her mind.  After a little while longer our server comes back to the table and was like do you need your check.  My date looks at her and says, "No we need a blanket, because we are going to stay here all night."  I just shake my head.  His singing though was not over.  He called his "guy" friend at the table and when he got his VM, he sang into the phone in a deep voice, "YOU DON'T LOVE ME ANYMORE".  I mean seriously was I on a date with Judy Garland?  We end the date and I had two to go boxes with me.  Needless to say this date was entertaining and as I said before I love a MAN in scrubs but do not like a man who wears scrubs and acts like more of a girl than me.

~ONWARD 

Sweet Little Coffee Date...Part 2

So on Wednesday I was eating lunch with a girlfriend and I receive a text message from Sweet Little Coffee Date part 2.  Now if you will remember on Monday I had a great little coffee date that got my Monday started off to a great start.

SLCDP2:  Did you get a hike today?  I am going to hike today around 4pm if you want to join me.
Me:  Sure, see you at 4pm.....

I arrive with my belly full and on time.  I see him and I just smile.  I think I may like this guy.  We started on our hike and talked non-stop for the next 2 hours.  We talked about our family and my kids.  He talked about his family and his ex-girlfriend's.  We talked about church and about our belief's.  He then asked some very personal questions that had to do with financial stuff.  I should not have told him the information that I did.  He then starts to tell me how much he wants a family and he does not have kids of his own and that we would really like children.  I did not know what to say to this.  I am finished having children.  I have two great boy's and that is enough for me.  I love my kids, but I do not want anymore.  Sweet Little Coffee Date Part 2 really wanted a family of his own.  This was something I knew may happen at some point.  I knew I may meet a guy that wanted children of his own and I already knew I was finished having children.  So what do you do?  I like this guy and now not sure what to do.  We end our hike and say our goodbyes.

SLCDP2:  I just want you to know that I have plugged your name in my phone so I will not confuse you with any other (insert my name here).  Thanks for being so forthright with everything.
Me:  No problem....My life is an open book.
SLCDP2:  Let's go out again and see if we can get to know each other.  The physical part is not a prob for me!!!
Me: ;)

I really like this guy and would love for it to continue, but we are on two different pages in our life.  He has never been married and really wants to get married and have children of his own.  I have been married and have two great children and feel I am finished having children.  Will I get married again?  I don't know.  I don't want this guy to miss out on having a family of his own, I don't want him to miss out on experiencing what I did with my two little one's.  This is a tough situation to be in.  What do you do with a guy that you like but the two of you are reading out of two different books?

~ONWARD

Here's My Number............

On Tuesday, I decided to meet a guy that really I could either take or leave.  He wanted to meet for a quick drink and a bite to eat.  I meet my date and we sit down and order drinks and an appetizer.  Out of the corner of my eye I see this beautiful man walk in and sit at a table near me.  He sits at a table with a couple so he is the third wheel.  I cannot take my eyes off of this man.  In my head I nickname him Black Beauty.  I am only half interested in Here's My Number.  I have a few drinks and order a small thing to eat.  My mind was on Black Beauty.  I notice that Black Beauty is also looking at me.  In fact he is almost staring at me.  I get up to go to the bathroom and I notice Black Beauty watching me go to the bathroom.  I get back to my seat with Here's My Number and the only thing I can think of is, "How am I going to get my number to Black Beauty"?  I pull out my phone as if I am taking a note and write my number down on a napkin.  I then go to the bathroom again.  A server approaches me and she asked me if I was on a date.  I tell her yes, but that I need a favor.  I needed her to hand Black Beauty my napkin.  She was against it at first, but then agreed.  SCORE, I had given Black Beauty my number.

Now before I tell you what happened next, I need to clear something up.  I get so many emails and winks from guys that at times I cannot keep them straight.  If I am interested in a guy then I will give him my number.  Now, if I look at a guy's profile I may not look at it again after the first time.  With that being said, I will return to my story.  I get back to my seat and I immediately get a text and in my phone I have this particular number saved as "Black Beauty"  the text reads:

BB:  You passed me......and the bartender gave me your number ironically
Me: OMG I am on a first time date LOL.
BB: Well, did you not know it was me?
Me: No sir, did you recognize me?
BB: YES!!!

So needless to say Black Beauty and I had emailed and texted several times and I had actually blown him off and never met him.  Now, here I am on this date and this Black Beauty catches my eye, I think I am filming Sex and the City and try to give this guy my number when all along I had indeed already spoken to this guy and blown him off.

The text messages continue:

BB: Gotcha.....So that date tonight........and without knowing it was me, BTW I texted you yesterday. Why give the bartender your number when you were on a date.
Me: A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do.  Actually I can count on one hand how many times I have given a guy my number.  What are the odds?  Hilarious.

Black Beauty then asks for me to meet me after my date with Here's My Number.  I tell him I can only handle one date in one night.  I promise him that we will meet later that week.

I end my date with Here's My Number which in my mind was not even a real date for him.  Sad for Here's My Number because Black Beauty distracted me from his date.

So far it has not worked out for Black Beauty and I to go out?  What is funny is that when you have something you want something else.  Black Beauty had asked me out twice before and I had blown him off, yet when I saw him I was mesmerized by him.  So why would I blow him off two times before??  Let me just tell you ladies, he is one Black Beauty.

~ONWARD 

Let's Talk About Dating..............................

On this particular blog I am not blogging about a date but about dating in general.  I want to define what dating is in 2011.  I think dating is so different for so many people.  And you cannot have a healthy dating situation if who you are dating does not define dating the way that you do.  I am on this quest to date and to find someone.  I am not trying to sleep around and have sex with everyone that I date.  What is crazy to me, is that some people out there think that dating does mean sleeping with multiple people.  They think that the best way to get to know someone is by sleeping with someone.  I have had over 3000 men view my profile.  I have had so many winks and emails that I am exhausted.  And what is sad is that most of these emails and men only want to get in my pants.  The emails that I have received are so sexually driven, I wonder what is your problem?  Do not put that you want a "Longterm relationship" on your profile and then only want sex.  But in today's society people have mixed up sex with dating.  I do not want a "one and done"  I want to be with someone who truly wants to be with me for me.  I would rather spend my life alone with my family and friends than be in an un-happy un-healthy relationship. 

If you meet a person and you connect on every level.  You just fit, you are perfect in every way together, then why would you want to search for someone else?  Is that called being selfish?  When you are dating and you find that person who you want to be around, why do you contine to date other people?  Is that also part of our society, that we just want more more more?  And by more I mean multiple partners?  How can you really find and get to know someone when you are also getting to know 4 other people at the same time?  It should be so simple.  What happened to boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy wants to be in a relationship with girl?  What it has turned into is, boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy wants to sleep with girl, boy wants to date and sleep with other people while also dating and sleeping with the girl he likes, boy wants to keep all the girls around so he can pick who he wants to date.  Well, I will tell you this.........I am in control and I am not going to wait around for someone to pick me.  I pick ME!!!  I know I deserve someone who is honest and true and loving.  If it takes me 30 more years to find it, I will not settle for someone who is not settling with me!!!!  Be true to yourself and love yourself.  Be strong and know in your heart you were meant for something better!!!

~ONWARD

A Sweet Coffee Date......

Monday morning, I got my day started with A Sweet Coffee Date.  This guy was so sweet, charming, educated just a true southern gentelman.  I was attracted to him but knew this date would not last long, due to the fact we both had to get to work.  We sat down over a cup of coffee and just started having the best conversation.  We bumped into several friends while drinking our coffee it was just a great morning.  A Sweet Coffee Date is grounded and family driven.  We really had a terrific morning.  It was short but oh so sweet.  After only 45 minutes he walks me to my car.  It really did start my day off great!!!!!  I was looking forward to getting to know him more.

Later that day he sent me a text:
ASCD:  I would like to see you again soon.
Me:  Absolutely

After countless dinner and drink dates, I am smitten with a man that I just had one cup of coffee with.  Sometimes in life it is the simple things that really catch you off guard.

~ONWARD

An Evening in Paris...........

For my Sunday date, I chose to go on another date with an older man.  He seemed very well traveled, very charming, and was average looking.  He decided on a late lunch after church.  Once we meet, I realize that this man may be too old for me.  I think he would be fantastic for someone his own age or just a tiny bit older.  We did have a lot in common, but then he started talking about his grandkids!!  Yes!!!  Grandkids and his two older children that were closer to my age than he was.  He then starts telling me that he would LOVE to take me to Paris and not Paris, TN.  He would fly me there and buy my anything I wanted.  He told me to get my passport ready.  But the simple fact was, I was more interested in our server.  Our server was young and good looking and we started talking about tattoo's and had great conversation while An Evening in Paris ate our appetizer as I got to know our server.  We end the date without even a full meal being ordered.  Like I said earlier, he is a great catch for someone just a tad closer to his age.

The next morning the text came and it was sweet:
AEIP:  Let me know when you would like to do it again......Great conversation!
Me: No response
AEIP:  Good morning just wanted to say thanks again for meeting me, I truly enjoyed our conversation...Let me know if you would like to get together again.
Me:  Thank you, hope all is well.

I know the saying, "Age is nothing but a number" I sometimes think that a person may be too young or too old for you.  If I am at a certain place in my life I kind of want my partner to be in that same place or at least near it and this sweet man was in an entirely different chapter than I was.

~ONWARD

The Never Ending Date...............

My Saturday date was only suppose to be a quick little hike.  We had decided to meet at my favorite place to hike.  I really liked talking to The Never Ending Date, I felt that we had a great deal in common and we were on the same page about many things in our life.  So we met Saturday morning at 10am.  The moment he stepped out of his car, I knew I was not physically attracted to him.  But I had to work off all these date meals so off to hike we went.  We hiked for about an hour and a half at a very fast pace.  We talked about everything, about our families and our jobs.  We talked about past relationships, really anything and everything.  After the hike was over, I was tired and just wanted a shower but The Never Ending Date had other plans.  He wanted to grab some lunch and to be honest I was a little hungry so why not.  We landed at this great little taco place and did have a good lunch.  It was a beautiful Fall day and the conversation was great.  While at lunch I told him that I was meeting a gal pal for dinner and a movie.  He stated that he too had plans and that was cooking for his family that night.  Our lunch was over and we parted ways.

I head home and within minutes he starts texting me, telling me that he enjoyed our time together, wanted to see me again soon.  I went through my afternoon and had dinner with my gal pal.  During my dinner, The Never Ending Date started texting me again asking what I was doing and if he could see me after dinner.  I explained that we were hitting a 10pm movie and he asked if he could "tag along".  I said sure because I thought he was joking, but guess what....he was serious.  He asked where we were going and what we were going to see and BOOM The Never Ending Date was there.  So there we sat in the movie, me, my gal pal and The Never Ending Date.  After the movie we parted ways AGAIN......

The next morning I received this text:
TNED:  Good morning beautiful! I am off to Sunday school and church.  Let me know if you would like to meet for the 11am service (he told me which church), would love to sit with ya! :)

Me: No response.

Now, what this man does not realize and it is not his fault, is that I have to get in 30 dates in 30 days and I cannot waste another entire day on him.  I did not feel that we connected and to be honest I want a guy that respects my time with my gal pals.  Because your girlfriend's are the people who get you through your 30 dates and who listen to you when you are heart broken.  My gal pal's are so important to me and I need a guy that understands that and allows me to have that time.

~ONWARD