Sorry, I'm leaving with HIM............

On Monday night I had a wedding reception that I needed to attend.  Yes, I know a wedding reception on a Monday night.  It was really crazy but the main thing is I needed a date.  I had a guy that was just itching to go out with me, so last minute I call him and of course he is ready to go.  No questions asked and he meets me in the parking lot of the restaurant.  We walk in and grab a table and immediately he is all over me.  Touching me, grabbing me, wanting to me near me and just basically getting on my nerves.  I finally broke free from my grabby grabby date and went to the bar.  As I am standing at the bar one of the groom's best friends approach me.  Now he was smokin' HOT!!!!!!  This guy starts making small talk to me and he follows me back to my table.  Smokin hot guy notices that the screen on my phone is broken and he tells me that his friend can fix my screen tomorrow.  As we all sit at this big table, Smokin Hot will not stop talking and looking at me and Sorry, I'm leaving with HIM will not stop touching me.  I was getting totally grossed out by Sorry, I'm leaving with HIM.  He now had his hand up the back of my shirt rubbing on my back.  I wanted to look at him and say, "Oh, I am sorry do you work at Massage Envy and have I paid you to touch my back"?  Smokin Hot could tell I was uncomfortable and so he continued to make conversation.  Every time I got up to go somewhere, so did Smokin Hot.  If I went to the bar Smokin Hot was there.  If I went to the bathroom, Smokin Hot went to the bathroom.  All the while Sorry, I'm leaving with HIM cannot seem to quit touching me.  Finally the night starts to wind down, and Smokin Hot approaches me and says he would like to continue this night.  I wanted to continue the night with him as well, but grabby hands would not leave my side now.  I finally tell Sorry, I'm leaving with HIM that I am ready to leave.  We walk to our car and he kisses me goodbye.  He gets in his car, I get in my car and Sorry, I'm leaving with HIM leaves and I get out of my car.  I go back in and grab Smokin' Hot.  We go to another little pub and grab a drink and have GREAT conversation.......

I drive home thinking, here I have gone on almost 30 dates and what if the guy that was meant for me was not even on this dating site to begin with.  I don't know what will happen with Smokin' Hot and I, but I will tell you this.  I am still smiling and it is not because of grabby hands. 

~ONWARD

Picture Perfect............

Sunday's date was very quick.  Picture Perfect and I had spoken on the phone a few times and we decided on a quick bit to eat early in the evening.  I was late of course, and he was waiting for me at the table.  I was somewhat physically attracted to him and the first part of our date the conversation was good.  I thought at first, "Hey, I might actually like this guy."  Then of course like so many of them do....it happened.  He started talking about his friend that happens to be a girl.  My girlfriend does this, my girlfriend does that and my girlfriend is such a "good" friend.  If talking about her was not enough, Picture Perfect then got out his phone and started showing me pictures of his "friend" that happens to be a girl.  I saw pictures of her at a sporting event, I saw pictures of her when she was with him, I saw pictures of her dressed up in her Halloween costume and also pictures of boots that she makes.  Yes, she makes boots.  And then he started asking me how I could help her out in branding her boots.  Did I know anyone that could help her out.  How can she really get her name out there?  I mean SERIOUSLY???  Was I in a business meeting or on a date.  BOOTS, BOOTS, BOOTS, BOOTS and more BOOTS.  Pictures, Pictures and more Pictures of her and her BOOTS.  Almost 2 hours of Picture Perfect, more pictures and fury boots.  At the end of the date I had felt like I had just watched an infomercial on fury boots.  We were finally finished with our date/business meeting and he walked me to my car. 

I just drove away thinking, first I do not want to sit on a date with a guy that wants to discuss business and second I do not want to be on a date with a guy that constantly talks about another woman.  I am not a jealous person but GEEZE, don't you want to know about me?  I want to be on a date that wants to get to know what I like.  What if I am against fury boots?  What about that?  What if I HATE fury boots?  Picture Perfect would never know, because he NEVER asked anything about me.  Of course I get the next day text and it said....

PP:  Where would you like to go for date number 2?
Me:  No response.

I did not respond and do not feel like responding because I am scared he is going to show up with a power point presentation on fury boots and I am just too exhausted to watch that.

~ONWARD 

Asian Express...........

On Saturday I went to grab a drink with Asian Express.  This guy had only sent me one email asking to grab dinner.  I told him I could not grab dinner because I had other plans.  So we both agreed to meet for one drink.  The location was great but I saw 5 people that I knew.  One of which was a guy that I dated and another one was someone I secretly wanted to sleep with.  So this was turning out just great 5 minutes in to it.  We grab two seats at the bar, and then it began.  This guy talked non-stop about Asia and how he loved Asian women.  How Asian women love him, how he loves Asian women, how Asian women are so small and petite, how Asian women are so cute, and how Asian women are just great all the way around.  For anyone reading this blog and know who I am, there are a couple of things you know about me.  Number 1. I am NOT Asian.  Number 2.  I am not petite (for those who do not know, I am 5'10).  And Number 3. At this point I wanted to down my drink and PEACE out.  So that is exactly what I did.  After an hour of enduring everything and anything about Asia, I decided to do just that.  I peaced out.  I left before Asian Express even got his check. 

Now, I know that I usually  blog about the after date text, but Asian Express did not text me after the date and I am guessing that is because I do not fit criteria number 1 from above. 

~ONWARD

Eminem..........

So I did something for my Friday night date that I will never do again.  I went out with a guy that I never spoke on the phone with.  We went to a little place that was middle of the road.  My date stated through text that I would know him as the guy sitting at the bar with black pants and white shoes.  I meet him and indeed he was wearing those sparkling white shoes.  What he did not mention was that he would also be wearing a ring that he bought in Panama City which I later found out he only wears on special occasions.   We sit down to eat and then it started.  He was non-stop talking about underground hip-hop and rappers.  He professes that he too is an underground hip hopper and knows everything about music.  I looked and read over my menu three times just so I would not have to talk to Eminem.  So yes, I was on a date with an underground rapper.  I had already been on a date this week with Judy Garland and now I was at the other end of the spectrum with Eminem.  I was MISERABLE!!!!  After our dinner, he wanted to go grab coffee next door.  I oblige just so I can get coffee so that I could drive home due to the fact I was SOOOO bored with Eminem.  I go to sit down to get coffee and he wants to sit on the same side of the booth as me.  That just creeped me out.  He talked about how good I smelled and I thought about if he was going to ask me to buy a CD from the back of his trunk when we were finished.  As our date FINALLY ends, he asked to kiss me and I said not on the first date......

~ONWARD

FAFAFAFALALALALA.....We're SO FABULOUS!!!!!

OH MY GOODNESS, Thursday's date was one for the books.  I met a guy that lives out of state but does business throughout the week here and he was going to be in town for lunch and wanted to meet.  We meet at one of my favorite places to eat.  He walks in and was wearing scrubs, now I love a man in scrubs.  His body was great, but his hair looked like he just filmed a John Hughes 1980's movie. That hair belonged in the Breakfast Club.  Once again as on so many of my dates, we order everything on the menu.  Chicken salad, flatbread pizza, macaroni and cheese, tuna and rice.  I ate more than he did.  He ate like a girl and I ate like a sumo wrestler.  He starts off by telling me that he has just had his most recent job for a few years.  He tells me that he had gotten let go from his previous job due to cross dressing.  I look at him as he says this and think to myself that I may need another order of macaroni and cheese.  He then starts talking about his two ex-wives and one particular step-son.  He then starts crying at the table while talking about how much he misses his step-son.  He says, "I can't believe I am crying on a first date" I think to myself, "I can't believe I have not taken a shot yet at the bar".  I listen to him cry and try not to laugh.  The date continues and our server comes to our table to check on us and she asked us how we were doing.  My date then busts out in SINGING...."We're SOOOOOOO FABULOUS".  As if he is on Glee the TV show.  I thought I was at a Broadway show.  Our poor little server looked scared out of her mind.  After a little while longer our server comes back to the table and was like do you need your check.  My date looks at her and says, "No we need a blanket, because we are going to stay here all night."  I just shake my head.  His singing though was not over.  He called his "guy" friend at the table and when he got his VM, he sang into the phone in a deep voice, "YOU DON'T LOVE ME ANYMORE".  I mean seriously was I on a date with Judy Garland?  We end the date and I had two to go boxes with me.  Needless to say this date was entertaining and as I said before I love a MAN in scrubs but do not like a man who wears scrubs and acts like more of a girl than me.

~ONWARD 

Sweet Little Coffee Date...Part 2

So on Wednesday I was eating lunch with a girlfriend and I receive a text message from Sweet Little Coffee Date part 2.  Now if you will remember on Monday I had a great little coffee date that got my Monday started off to a great start.

SLCDP2:  Did you get a hike today?  I am going to hike today around 4pm if you want to join me.
Me:  Sure, see you at 4pm.....

I arrive with my belly full and on time.  I see him and I just smile.  I think I may like this guy.  We started on our hike and talked non-stop for the next 2 hours.  We talked about our family and my kids.  He talked about his family and his ex-girlfriend's.  We talked about church and about our belief's.  He then asked some very personal questions that had to do with financial stuff.  I should not have told him the information that I did.  He then starts to tell me how much he wants a family and he does not have kids of his own and that we would really like children.  I did not know what to say to this.  I am finished having children.  I have two great boy's and that is enough for me.  I love my kids, but I do not want anymore.  Sweet Little Coffee Date Part 2 really wanted a family of his own.  This was something I knew may happen at some point.  I knew I may meet a guy that wanted children of his own and I already knew I was finished having children.  So what do you do?  I like this guy and now not sure what to do.  We end our hike and say our goodbyes.

SLCDP2:  I just want you to know that I have plugged your name in my phone so I will not confuse you with any other (insert my name here).  Thanks for being so forthright with everything.
Me:  No problem....My life is an open book.
SLCDP2:  Let's go out again and see if we can get to know each other.  The physical part is not a prob for me!!!
Me: ;)

I really like this guy and would love for it to continue, but we are on two different pages in our life.  He has never been married and really wants to get married and have children of his own.  I have been married and have two great children and feel I am finished having children.  Will I get married again?  I don't know.  I don't want this guy to miss out on having a family of his own, I don't want him to miss out on experiencing what I did with my two little one's.  This is a tough situation to be in.  What do you do with a guy that you like but the two of you are reading out of two different books?

~ONWARD

Here's My Number............

On Tuesday, I decided to meet a guy that really I could either take or leave.  He wanted to meet for a quick drink and a bite to eat.  I meet my date and we sit down and order drinks and an appetizer.  Out of the corner of my eye I see this beautiful man walk in and sit at a table near me.  He sits at a table with a couple so he is the third wheel.  I cannot take my eyes off of this man.  In my head I nickname him Black Beauty.  I am only half interested in Here's My Number.  I have a few drinks and order a small thing to eat.  My mind was on Black Beauty.  I notice that Black Beauty is also looking at me.  In fact he is almost staring at me.  I get up to go to the bathroom and I notice Black Beauty watching me go to the bathroom.  I get back to my seat with Here's My Number and the only thing I can think of is, "How am I going to get my number to Black Beauty"?  I pull out my phone as if I am taking a note and write my number down on a napkin.  I then go to the bathroom again.  A server approaches me and she asked me if I was on a date.  I tell her yes, but that I need a favor.  I needed her to hand Black Beauty my napkin.  She was against it at first, but then agreed.  SCORE, I had given Black Beauty my number.

Now before I tell you what happened next, I need to clear something up.  I get so many emails and winks from guys that at times I cannot keep them straight.  If I am interested in a guy then I will give him my number.  Now, if I look at a guy's profile I may not look at it again after the first time.  With that being said, I will return to my story.  I get back to my seat and I immediately get a text and in my phone I have this particular number saved as "Black Beauty"  the text reads:

BB:  You passed me......and the bartender gave me your number ironically
Me: OMG I am on a first time date LOL.
BB: Well, did you not know it was me?
Me: No sir, did you recognize me?
BB: YES!!!

So needless to say Black Beauty and I had emailed and texted several times and I had actually blown him off and never met him.  Now, here I am on this date and this Black Beauty catches my eye, I think I am filming Sex and the City and try to give this guy my number when all along I had indeed already spoken to this guy and blown him off.

The text messages continue:

BB: Gotcha.....So that date tonight........and without knowing it was me, BTW I texted you yesterday. Why give the bartender your number when you were on a date.
Me: A girl's gotta do what a girl's gotta do.  Actually I can count on one hand how many times I have given a guy my number.  What are the odds?  Hilarious.

Black Beauty then asks for me to meet me after my date with Here's My Number.  I tell him I can only handle one date in one night.  I promise him that we will meet later that week.

I end my date with Here's My Number which in my mind was not even a real date for him.  Sad for Here's My Number because Black Beauty distracted me from his date.

So far it has not worked out for Black Beauty and I to go out?  What is funny is that when you have something you want something else.  Black Beauty had asked me out twice before and I had blown him off, yet when I saw him I was mesmerized by him.  So why would I blow him off two times before??  Let me just tell you ladies, he is one Black Beauty.

~ONWARD 

Let's Talk About Dating..............................

On this particular blog I am not blogging about a date but about dating in general.  I want to define what dating is in 2011.  I think dating is so different for so many people.  And you cannot have a healthy dating situation if who you are dating does not define dating the way that you do.  I am on this quest to date and to find someone.  I am not trying to sleep around and have sex with everyone that I date.  What is crazy to me, is that some people out there think that dating does mean sleeping with multiple people.  They think that the best way to get to know someone is by sleeping with someone.  I have had over 3000 men view my profile.  I have had so many winks and emails that I am exhausted.  And what is sad is that most of these emails and men only want to get in my pants.  The emails that I have received are so sexually driven, I wonder what is your problem?  Do not put that you want a "Longterm relationship" on your profile and then only want sex.  But in today's society people have mixed up sex with dating.  I do not want a "one and done"  I want to be with someone who truly wants to be with me for me.  I would rather spend my life alone with my family and friends than be in an un-happy un-healthy relationship. 

If you meet a person and you connect on every level.  You just fit, you are perfect in every way together, then why would you want to search for someone else?  Is that called being selfish?  When you are dating and you find that person who you want to be around, why do you contine to date other people?  Is that also part of our society, that we just want more more more?  And by more I mean multiple partners?  How can you really find and get to know someone when you are also getting to know 4 other people at the same time?  It should be so simple.  What happened to boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy wants to be in a relationship with girl?  What it has turned into is, boy meets girl, boy likes girl, boy wants to sleep with girl, boy wants to date and sleep with other people while also dating and sleeping with the girl he likes, boy wants to keep all the girls around so he can pick who he wants to date.  Well, I will tell you this.........I am in control and I am not going to wait around for someone to pick me.  I pick ME!!!  I know I deserve someone who is honest and true and loving.  If it takes me 30 more years to find it, I will not settle for someone who is not settling with me!!!!  Be true to yourself and love yourself.  Be strong and know in your heart you were meant for something better!!!

~ONWARD

A Sweet Coffee Date......

Monday morning, I got my day started with A Sweet Coffee Date.  This guy was so sweet, charming, educated just a true southern gentelman.  I was attracted to him but knew this date would not last long, due to the fact we both had to get to work.  We sat down over a cup of coffee and just started having the best conversation.  We bumped into several friends while drinking our coffee it was just a great morning.  A Sweet Coffee Date is grounded and family driven.  We really had a terrific morning.  It was short but oh so sweet.  After only 45 minutes he walks me to my car.  It really did start my day off great!!!!!  I was looking forward to getting to know him more.

Later that day he sent me a text:
ASCD:  I would like to see you again soon.
Me:  Absolutely

After countless dinner and drink dates, I am smitten with a man that I just had one cup of coffee with.  Sometimes in life it is the simple things that really catch you off guard.

~ONWARD

An Evening in Paris...........

For my Sunday date, I chose to go on another date with an older man.  He seemed very well traveled, very charming, and was average looking.  He decided on a late lunch after church.  Once we meet, I realize that this man may be too old for me.  I think he would be fantastic for someone his own age or just a tiny bit older.  We did have a lot in common, but then he started talking about his grandkids!!  Yes!!!  Grandkids and his two older children that were closer to my age than he was.  He then starts telling me that he would LOVE to take me to Paris and not Paris, TN.  He would fly me there and buy my anything I wanted.  He told me to get my passport ready.  But the simple fact was, I was more interested in our server.  Our server was young and good looking and we started talking about tattoo's and had great conversation while An Evening in Paris ate our appetizer as I got to know our server.  We end the date without even a full meal being ordered.  Like I said earlier, he is a great catch for someone just a tad closer to his age.

The next morning the text came and it was sweet:
AEIP:  Let me know when you would like to do it again......Great conversation!
Me: No response
AEIP:  Good morning just wanted to say thanks again for meeting me, I truly enjoyed our conversation...Let me know if you would like to get together again.
Me:  Thank you, hope all is well.

I know the saying, "Age is nothing but a number" I sometimes think that a person may be too young or too old for you.  If I am at a certain place in my life I kind of want my partner to be in that same place or at least near it and this sweet man was in an entirely different chapter than I was.

~ONWARD

The Never Ending Date...............

My Saturday date was only suppose to be a quick little hike.  We had decided to meet at my favorite place to hike.  I really liked talking to The Never Ending Date, I felt that we had a great deal in common and we were on the same page about many things in our life.  So we met Saturday morning at 10am.  The moment he stepped out of his car, I knew I was not physically attracted to him.  But I had to work off all these date meals so off to hike we went.  We hiked for about an hour and a half at a very fast pace.  We talked about everything, about our families and our jobs.  We talked about past relationships, really anything and everything.  After the hike was over, I was tired and just wanted a shower but The Never Ending Date had other plans.  He wanted to grab some lunch and to be honest I was a little hungry so why not.  We landed at this great little taco place and did have a good lunch.  It was a beautiful Fall day and the conversation was great.  While at lunch I told him that I was meeting a gal pal for dinner and a movie.  He stated that he too had plans and that was cooking for his family that night.  Our lunch was over and we parted ways.

I head home and within minutes he starts texting me, telling me that he enjoyed our time together, wanted to see me again soon.  I went through my afternoon and had dinner with my gal pal.  During my dinner, The Never Ending Date started texting me again asking what I was doing and if he could see me after dinner.  I explained that we were hitting a 10pm movie and he asked if he could "tag along".  I said sure because I thought he was joking, but guess what....he was serious.  He asked where we were going and what we were going to see and BOOM The Never Ending Date was there.  So there we sat in the movie, me, my gal pal and The Never Ending Date.  After the movie we parted ways AGAIN......

The next morning I received this text:
TNED:  Good morning beautiful! I am off to Sunday school and church.  Let me know if you would like to meet for the 11am service (he told me which church), would love to sit with ya! :)

Me: No response.

Now, what this man does not realize and it is not his fault, is that I have to get in 30 dates in 30 days and I cannot waste another entire day on him.  I did not feel that we connected and to be honest I want a guy that respects my time with my gal pals.  Because your girlfriend's are the people who get you through your 30 dates and who listen to you when you are heart broken.  My gal pal's are so important to me and I need a guy that understands that and allows me to have that time.

~ONWARD

You Pick My Next Date.......

So since I started this, you know that I have not had much luck.  So I sat down and went through the dating site of potential daters that have emailed, contacted me or viewed my profile.  I asked in my last blog.."Where Is Normal"?  Well, this is apparently normal to some people.  The pictures below are actual profile pictures.  Based on these profile pictures, I am letting you decide my next date.........

 Now he is bringing Sexy Back!!!

 Do you think he can teach me how to play the guitar or do a fantastic blow out?

 Which car is mine?



Cirque du Soleil



Can we get matching tattoos?



  Is this Jack Hanna?

A picture is worth a thousand words......

Does anyone have a snow suit I can borrow?

Design on a dime?

I don't like my picture taken....

Well there you have it.  The question is, "Is normal out there"?  So it is in your hands, you get to decide which one of these fine young men I go out with. 

~ONWARD 

So What Do You Do?????

Okay so after my two date fiasco on Thursday, I decided to go out with a guy that seemed very normal on paper.  According to his profile picture he was very cute.  The only thing that concerned me was that he had three young boys.  But I agreed to meet him for a quick drink and a small bite to eat.  I get there and he is as all my dates are, already there sitting at a table.  As I approach I see that he is on the phone.  I sit down and order a drink.  I have never met this man and he is sitting there talking to his boss on the phone for the next 10 minutes.  He finally gets off the phone and for the next hour he talked about his job.  This is what I do, Janice is the secretary, Janice is not very good, Tim is a rep, Tim #2 is the IT guy, and on and on and on.  So What Do You Do would NOT stop talking about his job.  I knew more about his workplace than I even knew about him.  We did not talk about our families or our friends or what we like to do in our spare time.  It seems I know more about Janice and what she likes to do than I do about So What Do You Do.  It was exhausting.  I felt like I was at work just sitting there listening to him.  I think I may have had only two beers that I could not even finish because I was so anxious to get to my car.  After learning all there is to know about So What Do You Do and his job and the two Tim's and the awful secretary Janice I told him that I needed to be headed home.  He walks me to my car and kisses me on the cheek.

The next day I get this text message from So What Do You Do....
SWDYD:  Right now I wish U and I were snuggled up in comfy clothes, under a blanket on a couch just chillin' watchin a movie! :)  That would b awesome!

Me: No response

I mean COME ON DUDE!!!!!!  You want me at your house so we can go over work papers??  Seriously, where are the normal guys???  If they are normal and I like them, then they are dating other people or married.  If I do not like them, then they are all about me and available.  I think at this point I just want someone that I can have a normal conversation with and a good time.  WHERE ARE YOU NORMAL????

~ONWARD

And So You Are Married & My Livin Girlfriend........

So on Thursday I had two dates in one day.  I must say that at this point I am getting very discouraged.  But I must press on.  I decided to do a lunch date with And So You Are Married because my next few nights are booked up.  We had spoken on the phone and had sent several text message back and forth for about a week.  We decided on a meat n three which I love!!!  I arrive only about 5 minutes late and he is already there at a table.  He is not super attractive but we had good phone conversations so I think why not and have a seat.  We order our food and begin talking about our families.  He mentions something about his wife and I think to myself he must have meant to say ex-wife.  So, I say "do you mean ex-wife"?  He then looks at me and says no, my wife. I then say...And So You Are Married?   I say, "Do you live with your wife"?  He nonchalantly state that yes he lives with his wife and their children. I was floored I ask if his wife knows that he is on a dating site, he looks at me and says "Uh hell no she would kill me".  He tells me that he is not happy and that he is just trying to see what else is out there.  I think I bruised my jaw due to the fact it hit the table so hard.  I don't want to judge people and their relationship, but I also do not want to be apart of him trying to "find what is better."  I look at him and thank him for meeting me and grab my purse and leave.  I did not even get to taste my macaroni and mashed potatoes which made me even more mad. If And So You Are Married called me once he called me a thousand times after I left and also sent that many text messages, just letting me know that he really likes me and thinks I could be the "one" for him.

On to the night, my date and I had also spoken for about a week over the phone.  He decided on a nice place and then told me to bring along some friends.  I thought this was odd, but hey why not.  So armed with my gal pal we go and meet my date.  When I see him I was happy.  He was tall, handsome and oh so charming.  We had a great meal and ordered almost everything off the menu. The three of us enjoy a nice meal, me, my gal pal and My Livin Girlfriend.  I really liked him and so did my friend.  He was so easy to talk to and had such a great sense of humor.  Even though I had a rough first date of the day, this one was making up for it.  My friend was ready to go but I was not.  She said she could cab it to her house and off she went.  My date also told me that he had taken a cab to dinner.  I was enjoying myself, this man was educated, had a great job and was so funny.  After a few hours my date asks me if I would mind driving him to his house so that I can see his "mansion".  Yes, he said mansion.  I liked him so I obliged.  Now, he did live in a nice house but I would not call it a mansion.  We walk in and he wants to take me on a tour so on a tour we go.  He shows me the living room, the den and the outside pool area.  As we are walking back inside from the pool I notice a pair of female slip on's with a slight heel.  I put that in the back of my mind.  As we go into the master bedroom I notice a curling iron in the master bedroom.  I then ask, "Do you use that curling iron often"?  (Now I must say that my date is bald)  He looks at me and says, "Oh that is My Livin Girlfriend's".  Discouraged is not even an appropriate word to use at this moment.  I say you have a girlfriend that lives with you?  Yeah, but we just started sleeping in separate rooms. I then start to notice all the pictures of the two of them together.   I ask where she is and he states she is out of town working for the night. I then begin to understand why he would want my friend there, so it would not look like a date.  I grab my keys, thank him for dinner and walk to my car to go home.

That night and the next morning I want to throw in the towel.  I mean how did this happen, two dates in one day and both not available.  I do not want to do this anymore.  I have gotten several emails from men that are upfront about being married.  I received one the other day that told me he was married and that his wife knew he was on the dating site.  He stated that she wanted him to be happy.  This was his second marriage and did not want to be divorced twice.  As I stated earlier, I am not one to judge someone and their marriage or relationship but if you are not happy then GET OUT!!  Be enough of a MAN or a WOMAN and follow your heart and do what you want and what will make you happy.  Why are you on a dating site?  Now, I know I am on this dating site and blogging about it, but I want to find someone that makes me happy and find a true relationship.  But I also want to write this blog for all the non-single people out there to let them know how hard dating is and also for all the single people out there to let them know they are not alone.  There are some situations in life that you cannot control and then there are some that you can, I will tell you this I am not the girl that will allow herself to be in any type of relationship with a man that is unavailable.

~ONWARD

Let Me Show You My Bicep's...Part 2.......

Well, I did it.  This is the first time I have gone on a second date since starting this little thing. After our first date Let Me Show You My Biceps and I sent several text messages back and forth about getting together again.  Now, if you will remember my first blog about him I thought he was super dreamy and really wanted to see him again.  So we agree to dinner and again the location was a very nice place.  I was ON TIME!!!  You know when I am on time it means something.  I see him and I was speechless.  He looked delicious and I could have just eaten him instead of my sushi.  I wanted to dip him in the soy sauce.  Conversation was great.  We had not had any phone conversations since our first date just as I had said a few text messages.  The date was easy almost too easy and I could not stop looking at him.  I wanted this date and meal to be over quick and not for the same reasons that I had wanted my previous dates to be over....wink wink....This time around I wanted to see more than just a bicep. As our dinner winds down, now I am the one wanting the date to continue.  I longed for him to ask me to go somewhere else.  I would have sang karaoke, played pool, or thrown darts with this man.  I was mesmerized.  We walk outside and he walks me to my car.  He asks me to drive him to his car which was around the corner.  He gets in I start the car, I turn on some music and the car stays in park for some time. I feel like I am in high school again on this date and in this car.  The defrost is needed...wink....wink.....let me just say it is one thing to see the "bicep" it is an entirely different thing to "feel" the "bicep"......wink.....wink......As I go to finally put my car in drive, my car dies.  Let Me Show You My Biceps gets out and gets under the hood of my car and determines my battery has died.  I suggested that I call my AAA because I have a silver membership.  My date tells me he is better than a silver membership and that he can fix it.  We go and get jumper cables and he jumps me off!!!!  A kiss goodbye and I am off.  I was on a high on the way home.  Smiling from ear to ear. 

All morning I think, am I only attracted to Let Me Show You My Biceps because of his outward appearance?  Do I even like him as a person?  He seems so flawless on the outside but what about the inside?  Could I see myself growing old with him, laughing with him, just being with him?  Would I miss him during the day because of the words that he speaks or because of how he looks.  Why are we so consumed with what a person looks like, how much they weigh, and the size of their biceps.  Those things do not sustain a lasting relationship.  It goes deeper than that it is about a person's heart.  Now I will leave you with this, it is almost 5pm the next day and I have not heard from my date.  No after date text or call......guess we will explore that one later.

~ONWARD

Oh Hell, He has on Reader's............

Well ladies and gents, another day and another grueling date.  Although, this time I decide to pick the place that my girlfriends go every Tuesday so I could hang with them a bit before my date arrives.  He told me he needed to meet me late and at this point I am not sure why.  But I take this opportunity to unwind with a few girlfriends.  At about the time my date was to arrive, my girlfriend that was facing the door screamed, "He's HERE" (she did not even know what he looked like).  She then says. "OH MY he just put on his reader's, OH HELL HE HAS ON READER'S" and "He is texting you right now". Sure enough my phone beeps and it is a text message.  I get up from my seat and wave him over to my table.  He does in fact have on reader's and I wonder what he is trying to read as he meets my friends.  My friend's offer him a seat at our table but he declines and says he would rather sit alone with just me.  Off we go as my girlfriends make fun of me and him.  We sit at our own table and order our food. Now, I must say he said he was in his early 40's but in reality he looked like he was in his early 60's.  He has on dress clothes while I am wearing my jeans.   I soon find out why he needed to meet me later.  I find out that he is just a few months divorced and he has been to a support group for divorced people.  That is why he had to meet me later due to his divorce group.  He then tells me that this is his THIRD go at divorce group.  Now he is only recently divorced like 2-3 months and he has attempted this divorce group three times already.  We sat and ate and talked about divorce group for about an hour.  I then did not want him to see me stabbing myself in the eye with the fork, so I told him I needed to go to the bathroom and headed back over to my friend's table and realize I was gone far too long.  I head back to the table and he has gotten the check.  I am guessing he was too tired to pull out his Reader's because he handed the bill to me and ask that I read it to him.  He then later told me that he had Reader's but was too embarrassed to pull them out.  In the back of my mind, I was thinking aww hell we already saw those bad boy's no need to hide them now.  He paid the check and asked me to go downtown with him to sing karaoke.  Now, this is a Tuesday night it is late and you have reader's, the last place I am trying to go is downtown with you.  Heck how could he read the words on the screen to even sing?  I of course said yes and said I would meet him there.  Instead I met my bed at home.  WHY DO I DO THIS?????  Time and time again I agree to go or do something and go home instead.  What does this say about me.
Later last night I get this nice little text from Oh Hell, He has on Reader's....

OHHHOR:  Where are you? WOW (insert my name here)!!!!  Life is too short for grudges.  But I sure thought u were a straight shooter.  My best to u.  U r cold to lie to me.  My best to u. why didn't u just be honest. A no is fine w me.  It is no big deal.  Just be who u hold yourself out to be.  The main reason I went out w u was because u seemed to be a person who says what she thinks.  If u need help w it I'll help u as a friend. 

Me: No response.

Question do I need to sign up for a "group"?  I am not sure why I keep doing this, saying I will go elsewhere with a date and instead going home.  I just wish a date knew when to end the date, but it is as if this is there last night out before they are locked up for life. And really how long should a first date be?  Within six seconds of meeting a person you know if you like them or not.  I don't need karaoke or pool or darts to find this out.  I just need to see you walk in with READER'S.

~ONWARD

HOLLY, HOLLY, HOLLY............

Now, I know I have said this before but this time I mean it, I was really looking forward to my date from Monday night.  We had spoken on the phone several times for several hours.  He was and is an author and I was intriqued by his personality and knew from our conversations that we would have a good date.  We decided to meet at a place at a certain time.  Life happened and I was late.  Seems like life happens to me quite a bit.  I walk in and it is packed.  He looks at me and says, "You told me you were going to be here in 15 minutes, 25 minutes ago."  I apologize and felt bad, until I realize that he had not even put our name down.  He had been there for 25 minutes and did not put our name down at this packed resturaunt.  Even the bar area was full.  So we decide to leave and go to another place.  We sit down immediatley.  I had not even gotten my drink and less than 5 minutes of us sitting down it began.  Holly this, Holly that.  Holly, Holly, Holly, Holly, Holly, Holly and Holly.  If you are wondering who Holly is, well it is his ex wife from TWELEVE years ago.  YES I SAID 12 YEARS!!!!!  Do you think he is still bitter?  I know that Holly hates Christmas, Holly is a princess, I hate Holly, Holly destroyed my life, Holly does not like to travel, Holly avoids my phone calls (and I am thinking at this point so will I be), Holly is mean and on and on and on for over 2 hours.  The place was so loud that he could not get his point across about Holly so we walked across the street for coffee.  While at coffee he talked more about Holly and how she really destroyed him as a person.  His baggage was so heavy, I could not even pick it up.  I finally was able to escape and I was DRAINED!!!  I left there feeling like his problems were my own.  I went home and all I could do was go to sleep this date wore me out and not in a good way.

As I was talking to a girlfriend it got us thinking why are people on a dating site and what are they really looking for.  HOLLY, HOLLY, HOLLY clearly was not over his first wife yet he was out dating and trying to find his soul mate.  Other people are on dating sites just to hook up.  Even when these people find someone that they connect with they are still looking.  Some people are on dating sites and they are married.  So it leads me to ask, at what point do you take yourself off a dating site and begin to explore something you may have found.  Now, you may be wondering why I am on a dating site and it is to find something and someone true.  If and when I find someone that is worth getting to know more, I will hide my profile and explore that relationship.  As I have said in the past dating is hard, but some people make dating and finding that special someone even harder. I hope my exhaustion leads to someone who will want to hide his profile for me.

~ONWARD

Sunday NOT so Funday..........

Sorry again for the delay on my Sunday blog but I had some computer issues.  I chose to go out with a guy that I was a little doubtful of but he seemed nice enough.  He had a sexy name, but sexy he was NOT.  He is a nice Christian man which I want to find.  We decide that we will go to church together and then to brunch.  We are both in the process of "church shopping" so we pick a church that we both want to try.  We meet and I decide that this man with a sexy name is not me at all!!!!! He is wearing an over sized sweater that is V-neck with no undershirt underneath.  UGHHH!!! As we sit in church I keep wondering what is that noise.  I keep hearing this over and over again, I finally realize it is my date and he has some sort of nervous tick.  If I could have recorded it I would have and then put it on this blog.  Every 5 minutes my date sounded like he was taking off and ready to fly somewhere. 
After church he wants to take me to brunch and I oblige because we all know..."A Girl's Gotta Eat."  He picks a very very very nice place and I feel kind of bad because I know I am not into this guy.  But we go and have a good meal but then again I feel like I am at the airport waiting to take off because of Sunday NOT so Funday's noise.  After a grueling hour and a half we say our goodbye's.  I still the next day and now can hear that noise in my mind.

Sunday's are usually reserved for Sunday Funday, my this past Sunday was not so much.  I know he needs a great girl who will overlook any noises he might let out in the middle of church service but I was not that attracted to Sunday NOT so Funday to begin with so I could not over look it.  I guess I will keep my future Sunday's to FUNDAY'S!!!!!!

~ONWARD