HOLLY, HOLLY, HOLLY............

Now, I know I have said this before but this time I mean it, I was really looking forward to my date from Monday night.  We had spoken on the phone several times for several hours.  He was and is an author and I was intriqued by his personality and knew from our conversations that we would have a good date.  We decided to meet at a place at a certain time.  Life happened and I was late.  Seems like life happens to me quite a bit.  I walk in and it is packed.  He looks at me and says, "You told me you were going to be here in 15 minutes, 25 minutes ago."  I apologize and felt bad, until I realize that he had not even put our name down.  He had been there for 25 minutes and did not put our name down at this packed resturaunt.  Even the bar area was full.  So we decide to leave and go to another place.  We sit down immediatley.  I had not even gotten my drink and less than 5 minutes of us sitting down it began.  Holly this, Holly that.  Holly, Holly, Holly, Holly, Holly, Holly and Holly.  If you are wondering who Holly is, well it is his ex wife from TWELEVE years ago.  YES I SAID 12 YEARS!!!!!  Do you think he is still bitter?  I know that Holly hates Christmas, Holly is a princess, I hate Holly, Holly destroyed my life, Holly does not like to travel, Holly avoids my phone calls (and I am thinking at this point so will I be), Holly is mean and on and on and on for over 2 hours.  The place was so loud that he could not get his point across about Holly so we walked across the street for coffee.  While at coffee he talked more about Holly and how she really destroyed him as a person.  His baggage was so heavy, I could not even pick it up.  I finally was able to escape and I was DRAINED!!!  I left there feeling like his problems were my own.  I went home and all I could do was go to sleep this date wore me out and not in a good way.

As I was talking to a girlfriend it got us thinking why are people on a dating site and what are they really looking for.  HOLLY, HOLLY, HOLLY clearly was not over his first wife yet he was out dating and trying to find his soul mate.  Other people are on dating sites just to hook up.  Even when these people find someone that they connect with they are still looking.  Some people are on dating sites and they are married.  So it leads me to ask, at what point do you take yourself off a dating site and begin to explore something you may have found.  Now, you may be wondering why I am on a dating site and it is to find something and someone true.  If and when I find someone that is worth getting to know more, I will hide my profile and explore that relationship.  As I have said in the past dating is hard, but some people make dating and finding that special someone even harder. I hope my exhaustion leads to someone who will want to hide his profile for me.

~ONWARD